Wednesday, October 28, 2009

lovin' life


Between potty training, starting a new business, maintaining and revamping our current business, my doctorate program and writing my next book I've been UBER busy. Sleepless nights because my son (8 months old) has decided that his favorite time to eat is at 3am along with my mind still running from what I did or didn't complete during the day has taken me a bit out of my comfort zone.

So when I found out that a friend of mine's mother passed during her battle with cancer, I was beyond shocked. The funeral service took place on a Monday morning, which is the busiest day of the week but I went. I sat in the service and couldn't fathom what my friend could be thinking, going through, feeling or anything. My mind was thinking of how I would cope with losing my mom or anyone who was remotely close to me. As we drove to the grave site it began to rain outside and on my face from my own tears.

Life moves so fast we all have the option of going with the flow, falling behind the flow or moving faster than the flow (I'm sure you know I try to move faster than the flow). But death happens and makes you think why you are you moving so fast in the first place? Really, it helps me to re-prioritize my life and rearrange certain things.

I think we all take breathing and experiencing and hurt and joy and disappointment for granted. I'm happy that I even get to experience those things because there will be a time when I won't. I'm lovin' life and thanking God for each day.




Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Trick or Treat..should we or shouldn't we?

The observed day of Halloween is generally observed on the evening of October 31 throughout most of North America and in some areas of Western Europe. As it quickly approaches this year, our concern is that many families, whether through innocence or a lack of understanding, will participate in this holiday in a way that is not beneficial to them. The Bible tells us that we are engaged in a spiritual battle between good and evil; between the spiritual forces of God and Satan.

Although many view Halloween as merely a fun time to put on costumes and exchange candy, in reality this holiday has deep spiritual roots. At its core, Halloween is a celebration that focuses on the forces of darkness. It was originally a pagan festival of the dead. The festivities of Halloween are based on folk-beliefs about supernatural forces and spirits of the dead. These beliefs are often depicted through the various symbols associated with Halloween, and most of these directly relate to death in some shape or manner. Traditional Halloween decorations feature imagery associated with supernatural beings such as witches, werewolves, vampires and ghosts. They also include images which symbolize bad omens—such as black cats, bats and spiders.

The origins of Halloween can be traced back to the ancient religious practices of the Druids (Celtic priests). The Druids were members of a pagan order spread throughout Britain, Ireland and Gaul. They generally performed ritual blood sacrifices with animals but often with humans as well. In fact, the word bonfire is derived from the words “bone” and “fire” because the Druids would pile bones of sacrificed animals or humans in a field filled with timber and set them ablaze. To the Celts, bonfires represented the sun and could be used by Druids to aid in their fight against the dark powers. They believed their sacrifices would placate the gods, thus warding off evil spirits and ensuring that the sun would return after winter.

The Celts also believed that the eve of their new year, which they called Samhain, was the supreme night of demonic jubilation. Spirits of the dead would rise out of their graves and wander the countryside trying to return to homes where they formerly lived. Frightened villagers would try to appease these wandering spirits by offering them gifts of fruit and nuts. This is how the present day practice of "trick-or-treat" came into being.

Eventually Christianity began spreading rapidly throughout Europe, and rather than abolishing the pagan customs of Halloween, people tried to incorporate ideas into it which reflected a Christian worldview. This is why Halloween has evolved into such a confusing mixture of traditions from both the Christian and pagan cultures. Take the jack-o-lantern for example. A jack-o-lantern is a pumpkin carved with faces representing demons and illuminated from within. It is considered to be the “festival light” of Halloween because it was the ancient symbol of a damned soul and people believed that jack-o-lanterns could frighten away evil spirits. Other popular symbols of Halloween like bats, owls and other nocturnal animals were originally feared because people believed these creatures could communicate with the spirits of the dead. People during the Middle Ages also believed that witches could turn themselves into black cats. Whenever a black cat was spotted, people automatically assumed it was a witch in disguise.

When you take a close look at the symbols that make up Halloween, it is impossible to deny their evil nature since they primarily consist of witches, monsters, ogres, vampires, ghosts, ghouls, goblins and demons. In fact, Halloween is widely recognized as the ultimate day of celebration for Satanists. Those who oppose Christianity have been known to organize on this day to observe satanic rituals, cast spells, come against churches and families, perform sacrilegious acts and even offer blood sacrifices to Satan. In light of these facts, believers have a responsibility to carefully consider our participation in this holiday. God’s Word encourages us to avoid participating in pagan activities and incorporating religious pagan practices in worship (see Leviticus 18:24-30 and Deuteronomy 18:9). In Ephesians Paul warns followers of Christ to “Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, rebuke and expose them” (Ephesians 5:11). We need to be cautious about associating with works of darkness, because we don’t live in darkness anymore. As believers we now live in the light through our faith in Jesus.

Some parents don’t see a problem with allowing their children to celebrate Halloween. These parents celebrated it themselves when they were young and believe Halloween is both completely harmless and fun. Understand that God is not opposed to fun. He’s all about it, in fact, and so are we. However, Halloween is deeply rooted in evil. When we participate in Halloween, we can often send a subtle message to others that there’s no need to seriously consider the spirit realm. Even the types of costumes in which we dress our children can have an effect on our witness for Christ. Worse still, our participation can send a message to our children that witchcraft, demonic practices, Satanism and the occult are all harmless, entertaining and fun. If you have a desire to celebrate the season, we suggest celebrating it through an event not associated with Halloween. Our participation in any kind of celebration should always emphasize the light of Christ. We must be proactive in our faith and resist all the works of the enemy. The Bible tells you to "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour" (1 Peter 5:8).

Here are some suggestions on steps you can take with your family:

  • Do some personal research on Halloween.
  • Pray and ask God to show you what He wants you to do this Halloween.
  • Consider attending a Fall Festival at your local church.
  • Start a new tradition, rooted in God and family, on Halloween.
This article is courtesy of Gateway in Southlake, TX.

Friday, October 2, 2009

I'm a good person, why the bad things!?!


You know the saying of "everything happens for a reason" I truly believe that statement.

Not in the way that most people use it though. People do things that they know they have no business doing or get involved in situations their "gut" (aka the Holy Spirit) told them not to get involved in and then when things go sour they want to say "oh well, everything happens for a reason". No. Not in that way.

I'm talking about when you know you're living right and you're going about your business and when bad things happen to good people out of no where that leave you stunned. Then out of that situation you say "everything happens for a reason". At first you say it just to comfort yourself, after sometime you say it because you believe that God has to have a better plan and through the situation there is a learning experience that will benefit you beyond belief.

It's one of the unfortunate things about life that we have to go through tough times or experience hurtful things but that's just life and we're better off just accepting the fact that
good things happen to good people and bad things happen to good people. It's been that way for centuries and more than likely will continue to be that way.

I can't say much for the people who treat others like trash and then expect the whole world to bow before them when they need something. No. Some call it karma. Basically you reap what you sow. Show kindness, mercy, love and forgiveness to others and that's what you'll get in your time of need. If you act ugly, never make yourself available to others, and don't know how to share a free smile just know that you'll get the same thing in due time.

Even with life being what it is we can all take comfort in the fact that we are here for a reason and no matter what happens to us, good or bad, it can never deter us from being who God has called us to be.

Selah.


Saturday, September 12, 2009

Heeey I am not my hair!

If I hear another person make an unscriptural reference to a woman having short hair I am going to scream (not really but it sounds good)! Most people will quote I Corinthians 11 for their rational on why a woman shouldn't wear short hair. But Paul (the author of Corinthians) clearly states that a woman having long hair is a preference but it is not a law and that we should judge for ourselves.

Anyone that knows me knows that if there is anything that will hinder my walk with Christ I'm not interested in getting involved, being involved, doing it, being apart of it (you get the point). My relationship with Him means more to me than anything this world can offer so before I go along with the crowd or accept a belief I will research it first and then make my decision.

Based on scripture, I honestly don't believe that God cares one way or another whether women wear makeup or do not wear makeup, wear dresses everyday or do not wear dresses, rock a perm or dreadlocks. What He cares about is the state of our heart and if we live our lives in a way that represents the goodness of God in our lives. So let's drop the petty nonsense and live our lives meaningfully. With that I will make the ANNOUNCEMENT:

CUTTING MY HAIR IT IS NOT ANYTHING THAT WILL HINDER MY WALK WITH CHRIST
SO CHOP, CHOP!

Friday, September 11, 2009

The other woman meant nothing, huh?


Soo I've been reading "Act like a lady, Think like a man" and I have to say that I've truly enjoyed it. I know it seems odd that I'm reading the book because I'm married and the book has been tagged as a singles book but I'm a "lady" married to a "man" and I want to know how he thinks to make our lives together better! Wow, if what Steve says is true then men really are SIMPLE creatures. Now simplicity doesn't mean lacking in intelligence, it just means that they are completely different from women as we are complex creatures and the saying 'women are from Venus, men are from mars' holds validity.

The PROBLEM or DISTAIN that I had with the book was the following statement:

"A man can love his wife, his children his home, and the life that they've all built together, and have an incredible physical connection to her, and still get some from another woman without a second thought about it, because the actual act with the other woman meant nothing to him."

"Err excuse me?!? Now granted you there is some content that is missing but for the most part this one sentence has said enough. Obviously Steve is referring to the 'natural' man and not the 'spiritual' man but then again I'm not a man and can't give much insight on this method of thinking.

But my initial thought was that this is a scary thought process and for others to accept this is difficult for me to process. Seriously. To me this doesn't help any woman feel comfortable with giving her all or being the woman/wife/mom that she was born to be. After doing all that you can as a woman to create a home to have the thought in the back of your mind that no matter what you do he will still bypass the trust that you have in him for a moment of pleasure is .....sickening.

Again, I would think that the spiritual man would have enough sense and have developed enough self control to remove himself from those situations but that's just my way of thinking.